My husband is a very hands on dad, but some days he will come home in a foul mood and honestly I will just keep the kids out of his way so he can do what he needs to (usually tidying the garage or something like that). There are also days when I come home in a foul mood and he will do the same for me. I think if he came home every day in a foul mood I would be concerned, and I would have something to say about it if he spent all his time on the wii and left me to tend to the children but he is much more hands on with them that I am tbh. For parenting we slipped into a routine very early on where I would do the feeding/cooking and he would bath the kids/do the garden. We both help out with cleaning. Even when I was a stay at home mum. However I would never wake him in the night to help me tend to the kids, because he had to work the next day and I could nap when the kids did if I had to.

I think you need to have a calm conversation with your OH and let him know your expectations of him, and find out his of yours. He may not have picked up on your cues that you want him to take over parenting when he comes home so you can have a break. He may think that is unreasonable but be happy to come to some other agreement with you for fairer sharing of parenting duties. Either way the only way to know is to talk to him. Good luck